There are moments in time when a single, ordinary comment can send a person into a complete tailspin...so with that said, here is my story.
It was just an ordinary day, just an ordinary comment and just one little word that changed my perspective. For the first time, I realized that my response, to a simple question reflected the way I saw myself.
My children were very young and I worked part-time to avoid the baby sitting dilemma.
So...what do you do?
I’m just a mom.
Later on that day, that single phrase hit me like a ton of bricks! Just a Mom! Just a Mom! What was the matter with me? Did I really say that! Yes, I work part-time and I AM a Mom; a busy Mom; a tired Mom, and often a frustrated Mom, but just a Mom?
Where did that come from? I mean really, is someone just a Doctor, just a Lawyer,just a Nuclear Scientist? Oh, well, I digress. Why on earth would I use the word just to describe my career, my destiny...my life?
When one accepts the role of Mom, it is one of the most important jobs in the world...if not THE most important. Therefore, how dare I, or anyone else, demean the status of such a vital position? A Mom’s day begins before anyone else awakes and ends long after everyone else has retired for the evening.
A Mom’s responsibilities are endless. Breakfast’s must be prepared (even cereal, after-all, someone has to get the bowls out and pour the milk), pack lunches, do the laundry (every day), ensure the kids leave the house “appropriately” dressed for school, teeth are brushed (can’t assume), hair is combed and see that the kiddos arrive at school or the bus...on time!
Then it's time for the mom, who is employed outside of the home, to hurry and get ready for work, hoping her shoes match (who among us hasn’t arrived with two different shoes of similar styles) and double checking the seams on clothing (you know you have worn that blouse inside out before). For the Mom who is not employed outside of the home, the routine of household responsibilities must be tackled.
Whether employed outside of the home or not, mom inevitably has to pick up dirty clothes that have been left wherever they were removed. (Side note: I find it amazing that spouses and children have difficulty seeing things on the floor; they will look at it, walk over it, around it or even through it, but will never pick it up.)
Meals, whether baked, fried, crock-potted or micro-waved must be prepared, dishes have to be washed or loaded into the dishwasher, carpets require vacuuming from time to time, linoleum demands to be swept and pre-fabricated furniture will not dust itself.
Multi-tasking is a must when juggling homework, after-school activities, ball games and band practice. A Mom may not be a doctor in real life, but definitely plays one at home. A Mom’s responsibilities never end. Doctor appointments, picking up a sick child at school, dropping off forgotten homework, paying bills, balancing the checkbook, and most important, ensuring that the last roll of toilet paper or all of the shampoo has not been used.
The moral of this story is this....employment status is irrelevant; a Mom works full-time! As a Mom, you are never JUST a mom! A Mom’s work is hard, heartbreaking at times and the pay is lousy. Being a Mom is a lot of things, it’s just that JUST, ain’t got nothin’ to do with it!
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!