WARNING: SAPPY BLOG POST AHEAD:
How did this happen? I blinked and here I am, 31 one years later, somewhere between walking down the aisle and today. As my grandmother used to say, time waits for no one and boy was she right!
I guess you could say Hubs and I had a whirlwind romance . We met July 21, 1985 and were married April 26, 1986.
Fate or coincidence, I'm still not sure, but I did catch the bouquet at my best friends wedding and met soon-to-be-hubs later that evening. After the reception, myself and a few other friends decided to go to The Executive Inn Showroom Lounge to see a show. The Showroom was known for bringing in performers, who…well, let’s just say, were typically fading in their popularity.
Hubs was the house drummer and during his break, he stopped by our table and introduced himself. He asked for my number before going back on stage, and I told him it was in "the book". (Anyone remember the days of a phone book?) To my surprise, he called the next morning, but I was half asleep when I answered.
“Hi, this is Greg (yes, Greg is Hubs real name), I met you last night?” I said, “Greg…who?” Hey, what can I say, I have a knack for making great first impressions. In my defense, I am not fully coherent when I first wake up, a fact he now knows, but didn’t know then.
I still can't believe he didn't just hang up, but asked me out to a movie for the following Saturday. I, of course, immediately said, “Does that include dinner?” (What were you thinking I said?) To be honest, I think he too may have been a little taken aback, but said, "Yes, I guess it can". Long story short, we set up our first date for dinner…..and a movie and to this day "Dinner and a Movie" has become our anniversary tradition, go figure.
Hubs, as I affectionately refer to him, was the first guy I dated who appeared to actually listen to me. (Although, one could argue that his listening skills have changed a bit over the years, but I digress.) At the time, we were tired of the dating scene, fix-ups and the like. We were in a no strings, no commitment relationship. We were casually dating and just having fun; at least that is what we told ourselves.
From our first date until now, we were and are still together most of the time. Hubs became my best friend in a very short time. In fact, I believe we were both blind sighted when our friendship turned to romance. It's hard to explain, but we just belonged together. After he said the first “I love you”, things moved quickly from engaged in October of '85 to married April 26, 1986!
Of course, announcing I was marrying a “musician” wasn’t the happiest moment for my parents, (although, over the years, they grew to love him as much as did). In addition, many of our friends did not have high expectations that our union would survive either; yet here we are, 31 years of marriage and two grown kids later.
As a couple, we have been through a lot, but then again, who hasn't? We have made a lot of mistakes and dealt with serious health and financial issues, but we have survived. Life is life! Deal with it and move on!
That said, I must admit, there are days when I can’t help but wonder what might have happened if we had moved to a bigger, more progressive city? We planned on moving “one day” but that “day” never arrived. Hubs talent as a drummer has been so underutilized, and trying to make a decent living as a writer has been next to impossible. However, complaining solves nothing, you can't go back and we have no one to blame but ourselves; we chose to stay. Rather than believing our creative dreams are gone, I choose to think they are yet to been realized. We continue to trudge along and persevere where opportunities lead.
So, again, the question begs, if given the chance, would I travel the same route? Probably not! Would I still marry hubs? Absolutely, and without hesitation! Any changes made, we would make together.
Without a doubt, our marriage has blessed us with our greatest treasure…our children. They are both grown and on their own. Our son married the love of his life five years ago and, in the process, added another daughter to our lives. We couldn't be more proud of them! I encourage them to continue to pursue their dreams, jump over life's hurdles, embrace the challenges and always keep moving forward.
As for hubs and me? Well, we keep on keeping on! We still laugh at the silliest things and we don’t really feel our age, at least not while we’re sitting down. He is, and always will be my best friend and I must say, I am looking forward to the next 31 years and beyond! Happy Anniversary Hubs, I love you!